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Some questions to ask yourself when considering a Muslim/Christian marriage
- Do you respect the core values of your partner's faith. Do they respect yours?
- Can you cope with disapproval? (your family, your community, spouse's family)
Are you prepared to try to work through it for your partner's sake?
Are they prepared to do the same?
- Is your commitment to this relationship at the top of your priorities-or very near it?
- Can you compromise?
- Do you like your spouse's faith and culture, have you accepted positively spending the rest of your life with what's different about him/her, and not secretly/unconsciously hoping it will disappear?
- Does he/she like yours?
- Are you happy that this culture/religion will be an important part of your life not just your partner's? Are you prepared to learn more about it and be involved in it?
- Is this how she/he feels?
- Are you prepared to accept that your partner may change his/her mind and habits in religion and culture as they go through life?
- Is he/she prepared to accept that you might? (pre-nuptial agreements are fine but people's feelings often change for example after the birth of children)
- If you are hoping that your partner will choose your religion ultimately, have you told them? Are you happy to accept that this may never happen?
- Do you know if this is how he/she is thinking?
- Can you accept that, whatever choices you make for them, your children will ultimately make their own choices. Whatever their faith, their identity will always be different from yours. Will you be able to accept that difference positively, whatever happens in your relationship with your spouse?
- Do you feel positive about facing the kind of challenges described above?
- Can you talk to your partner about the above issues?
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